Fear Thrives on Avoidance
When I was growing up, my family didn’t always celebrate Halloween. We went trick-or-treating when I was very young, but later my parents became convi…
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Writing and Trauma Recovery
I feel like I have written myself into a corner. I was fueled with rage when I first committed to writing about my experiences, and now I’m stuck with…
Learning How to Rest
Last year’s Disney film Encanto was a powerful and endearing musical. It did a fantastic job of addressing how intergenerational trauma can lead to dy…
High Stakes and Long-Winded Takes
My blog posts are lengthy. I am in the habit of choosing broad subjects with a great deal of nuance to consider. As pretty much everyone I’ve ever met…
Urgency and Perfectionism
I've written less than ever this year. I've been busy with school and therapy, but I've also allowed the perfect to become the enemy of th…
The Meaning of Marriage
For many years, I didn’t believe that marriage was for me because of its conservative connotations. However, conservatives don’t own the joy of commun…
I’m Engaged!
I am excited to announce that I’m getting married! My partner Ryann and I have been talking for months about how we want to express our commitment to…
Daughters of Patriarchy, Part 3: Embracing Oppression
When I was still riding in a car-seat, my mom liked to play Christian songs for kids on tape. One of them went, “I’m in-right, outright, upright, dow…
Daughters of Patriarchy, Part 2: Denial
Content note: this post briefly mentions rape but does not go into detail. Patriarchy has layers of subtlety. Our society, culture, and world are all…