The Trauma Tug-of-War
The tug-of-war that takes place in my psyche now is that in relation to my trauma, I’m simultaneously obsessed and avoidant. I avoid the triggers because it’s painful, even detrimental, to revisit the traumatic memories....
Psychology and mental illness
Coping Skills
“I’m learning the ropes I’m learning to cope I’m learning that more of us got hella demons than got any hope.” -Xiuhtezcatl I’ve been in and out of therapy for over...
Birthday Post 10
I hear you don't like it I don't care if you don't... You can burn the skin I live in But you cannot burn the witch away -Aurora, The...
Rethinking Victimhood
“Don’t be a victim.” “You have a victim mentality.” “I’m not a victim.” “I’m not like a typical victim.” These statements are often normalized and seen as signs of strength and resilience....
Letter of Self-Compassion: Writer's Block
“There’s nothing to writing. All you do is sit down at a typewriter and open a vein.” This phrase is commonly attributed to Hemingway, but may have been said by Red Smith in an interview about column writing. I haven’t read the works of either of these men, but for years I lived...
Letters of Self-Compassion: Heaven
2015 was so full of transformations. I worked three different jobs, and my relationships were in a constant state of flux. It seemed like I was constantly losing friends while precariously trying to make new ones. At the beginning of the year I found myself sick of trying, as I had desperately all my life,...